Complaining about Sexism

Greta Christina says complaining about sexism and other forms of oppression is a Catch-22: if we don't complain, the problem remains invisible, but if we do complain, we

... get accused of “playing the victim card.” We get accused of making
up the marginalization, or exaggerating it, or going out of our way to
look for it, or twisting innocent events to frame them in this narrative
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